If you have been asked to give a eulogy at a friend or loved one's funeral, you will want to take the time to prepare something that will be fitting for the occasion. Eulogies are meant to honor the deceased, so you will need to put some effort into making your speak heartfelt and helpful to help those at the funeral understand a bit more about them. Here are some tips you can use when getting prepared to give a eulogy speech of your own.
Preparing To Speak
If you have never given a eulogy before, you may need to brush up on your public speaking skills a bit before the funeral. Write out the words on a piece of paper instead of trying to thing of something on the spot. There may be a chance you will be nervous, so having it written down will help you keep on track with the ideas you wish to convey. Practice in front of a friend beforehand to make sure your eulogy will be well-received by others. Your friend will let you know if there are parts that do not make sense or that do not seem appropriate.
Keep It Short
Most people will lose interest in a public speaker after bout five minutes unless there are activities to break up the monotony. Try to keep your speech to three to five minutes so it does not bore anyone or overtake other events during the funeral. When you write your speech, time yourself to make sure it is will not be uncomfortably lengthy. Instead of quantity, quality is what should be focused on when giving a eulogy.
Stick To The Facts
The reason for giving a eulogy is to commemorate someone's life. It is not to be used to give any negative feedback about the deceased in any way. It should give some anecdotes about the person's life and give everyone listening a positive feeling about the deceased in general. Write the eulogy from the heart. If you use any humor, make sure it is appropriate for all listeners and for the setting where the funeral services are being held.
Try to add a few memories that are uplifting for listeners. If you are unsure about what to say in your eulogy, ask a close family member of the deceased to help give you a few ideas. You can also run your ideas by them to make sure you are saying things the family approves of overall.